Spades!

"Mommy went out into the world to find herself. Both Dad and I realized that it was about time you found yourself when you'd managed to become the mother of a four-year-old boy, so we supported the actual project. I just could never understand why she had to go away to find herself. Why couldn't she sort things out at home, in Arendal- or at least be satisfied with a trip to Kristiansand? My advice to all those who are going to find themselves is: Stay exactly where you are. Otherwise you are in great danger of losing yourself forever."

from the book "The Solitaire Mystery" by Jostein Gaarder